Have we just gone from two to three?

One of the biggest changes in life post a baby is how we are no longer just a couple! No 'just pack ya bags over the weekend, let's drive some place' or 'food is boring, let's eat out'. There is the 'baby factor' to consider, a factor that surely is not just one third of the equation!! ;-) in my two month stint I am convinced the weightage in the equation is actually inversely proportional to our age, weight or any other measurable metri =)) my shout out to expecting parents- don't underestimate this change! 

So how exactly does it affect our daily lives? AJ and I analysed over this weekend to realise the huge change our lives have undergone over the last couple of months. AJ's notes to begin with:

1. Expenses have doubled, not increased by one third

2. Outings have zeroed, his camera is gathering dust so is his bullet

3. Our YouTube time has almost vanished (no more Russell Peters or Vadivelu rehashes)

4. Bath, shave etc are luxuries at Tu's mercy, getting teeth brushed in the morning for us is a daily accomplishment!! =))

5. The 'unknown' in the day- could be colicky pain, growth spurt or plain ol' baby tantrum   Can be a real spoiler to any 'couple only' plan we make!!

Net off, it feels like an addition of an army in your life not a single 3 something kilo thingummy!! ;-P

From my perspective:

1. We have a full time maid - I cannot begin to describe what this entails as a change in our lifestyle. To summarize we no longer watch any English sitcoms at home :-/

2. Suddenly as a couple we are no longer self sufficient!! My sis comes over to help give tu a bath, we can't manage tu if not for my mom-in-laws' help, we struggle to make a trip to the doc n back on our own. Needless to say alone I may as well not exist!

3. No one, I repeat NO ONE comes home to see AJ n me anymore!! It's only to see the baby ;-) in a way I am beginning to enjoy how people see thru me n head straight to Tu or how I no longer have to 'keep the convo going'. There's suddenly plenty to chat about.

Net off to me, it seems like the house is an army these days - all of us tasked with various objectives to serve Tu's needs

The addition of a baby to the family makes us enormously dependent on everyone around us, and I can say this unequivocally this is not just going from two to three! But taken with a good sense of humor this is a great change, we certainly haven't added just another dimension to our life. We have added multiple dimensions all at once and life has exploded alive!! If all along we had a 'controlled social life' now it's completely the opposite, same with a clean house and organized tasking. I think the shortest way of describing this change is to frankly admit that Aj and I no longer 'control' anything about our lives =)) shocking as it may sound, in a strange sense it is also liberating and certainly (going by my sister's words) we surely feel welcomed into the parenting club :-D  there is some sense of fun in sneaking in a sitcom episode or in gesturing our thoughts to each other and when we laugh together at our dilemma- it is a cherished moment together, almost like gollum's "precious". ;-) So in a sense I guess tu is teaching me and Aj to cherish everything we have, unlike in the past - when it seemed more taken for granted. And in this context we certainly have gone from two to ten! :-)