When I become a grand parent there are certain things I want to remind myself:
1. This whole experience is about my child, secondly it's about my grandchild. Definitely it's not about me.
2. If my child wants to raise her child differently- thats her RIGHT to do so. She is not sitting any judgement on me. After all if she decides to have a child she has every right to determine how to raise the child she has brought to life
3. I should do what is good for the grand child, even if it is something I am uncomfortable about
4. My child has ENOUGH on her plate, being a new mom is not easy. But being judged is even worse and it is very very purposeless. I should encourage her to be confident in her doings and thinking, my role is predominantly to reassure her that NOONE can have a greater claim to her child's interests
5. I need to adjust to my child's asks, I have every right to say no to her asks but i have no right to acquiesce and act like I am doing this world a favour.
6. I will continue to have a life- apart from that of my child's or my grand child's.
7. I will give the parents and their child time and space. they need both of that equally.
8. I will research and re-research before i dish out advice, what I did may be outdated and irrelevant to my grandchild's well being.
9. I will do whatever it takes to make my child and her child happy, I will continue to pay attention to what matters to my child even after I have a grand child.
10. I will NOT compare my grandchild to any other child EVER!!! I will not compare my child to any other child too!
1. This whole experience is about my child, secondly it's about my grandchild. Definitely it's not about me.
2. If my child wants to raise her child differently- thats her RIGHT to do so. She is not sitting any judgement on me. After all if she decides to have a child she has every right to determine how to raise the child she has brought to life
3. I should do what is good for the grand child, even if it is something I am uncomfortable about
4. My child has ENOUGH on her plate, being a new mom is not easy. But being judged is even worse and it is very very purposeless. I should encourage her to be confident in her doings and thinking, my role is predominantly to reassure her that NOONE can have a greater claim to her child's interests
5. I need to adjust to my child's asks, I have every right to say no to her asks but i have no right to acquiesce and act like I am doing this world a favour.
6. I will continue to have a life- apart from that of my child's or my grand child's.
7. I will give the parents and their child time and space. they need both of that equally.
8. I will research and re-research before i dish out advice, what I did may be outdated and irrelevant to my grandchild's well being.
9. I will do whatever it takes to make my child and her child happy, I will continue to pay attention to what matters to my child even after I have a grand child.
10. I will NOT compare my grandchild to any other child EVER!!! I will not compare my child to any other child too!
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